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I seriously can not stop smiling........

According to this, JKR changed her mind about Ron and Hermione.

I probably need to re-read the books again (which would then be my 4th time I think?), but aside from some details here and there, I was satisfied with everyone's development. With the fandom not as active anymore, I don't know what public wank can  development from this. And even so, I'm still not sure how much I'd care. We all grow and change. JKR wouldn't be the first artist to look back on their body of work and think they could have done better.
"Patriarchy has no gender." ~Bell Hooks

I don't know who else is still around the fandomsphere that may read this. The few people I was close to here I've connected with on Facebook, and real life has a taken a toll on all of us in different ways. But writing out Part 3 was always my unfinished business, and at least now I have a slightly more mature head that can finally finish this up.

Today I was re-reading Part 1, Part 2, and the comments. A few things I've realized:

-I think my writing was semi-shitty. I'm probably being too hard myself, but there's a few spots that I want to edit when I have the time.

-My arguments in the comments were even more shitty, and that's just truth. Some of them make me cringe just looking at them

-I, along with many others, delved too much into comparing Muggle discrimination in the HPverse to real life racism, to the point where it was kind of offensive in itself. And most of it was done by non-POC's fighting with non-POC's. The books do a good enough job of setting up muggle discrimination and blood status within its own world. If people are going to deny the conflicts of the story, there's nothing else that can be done. And in many ways, real life racism doesn't even compare to what's in the books.

But what got me so angry and motivated back then and to rant and argue with a whole bunch of strangers was that I was hurt. I was hurt by seeing Lily referred to as a gold digger, as a bitch, as an unforgiving naive girl who stayed unforgiving and naive till the day she died. I was hurt seeing a girl labeled as cruel and hard to deal with for trying to defend herself. I was hurt by seeing all these insults coming from fellow women. And most of all, while all of this was going on, a fictional man who who was just as cruel and emotionally selfish as Lily was claimed to be, who was cruel to the son of the woman he was supposed to love and used his authority as a teacher to do so, was praised to no end by the same people. That he deserved forgiveness for things he was never sorry about until the very last minute when the woman he loved was at risk. Women fawned over him, and some even claimed to be in love with him. (HE'S NOT EVEN REAL!!)

It hurt going into almost every Snape forum, which most people do for their favorite characters, and not feeling safe.

And it still hurts today, because I'm still seeing it. I'm seeing it in discussions of other female characters in other fandoms when it involves the love and/or actions of men. And with what's been going on the last 4 years, I'm seeing it even more in real life. Women's choices are still being debated for whether or not they should be legal by a bunch of mostly white men. Teenage girls who have been raped are being demonized, to the point of being driven to suicide, while their rapists are still roaming free. And in some cases the rapists are being protected by their school and community. And even after they're caught, the journalists who are reporting on their trials are feeling sorry for them for the punishments they have to face. I see it when my girlfriends, who are in their 30's/married/living on their own still complain about their brothers or even their husbands getting special treatment and expectations from their own families. I see it when I now have friends and family who have been victims of abuse and sexual assault, and their male perpetrators still think they've done nothing wrong. I still see women demonizing other women with the same patriarchal attitudes we think can only be executed by men. Women are still in danger, both physically and emotionally.

The list can go on. We are still continuously attacking our women.

I admit, I had a bad habit of arguing with people back then. I still do. But with the few regrets I have for all my past antics, I'm glad I wrote what I did. Because It still needs to be said, because the examples I gave in Part 1 and Part 2 are still happening 4 years later.

To anyone who is reading this, who is still seeing the same things I see in both fandom and real life, who are still fighting (and I see you guys still fighting), I wish you all the strength to keep going. And that anything I've said here or in my past posts inspires you to do so.

I find it a coincidence that I decide to post this last night, and I find out just minutes ago that COS is closing today for good. This is an end of an era.
"The salty Dornishmen were lithe and dark, with smooth olive skin and long black hair streaming in the wind. The sandy Dornishmen were even darker, their faces burned brown by the hot Dornish sun. They wound long bright scarfs around their helms to ward off sunstroke. The stony Dornishmen were biggest and fairest, sons of the Andals and the First Men, brown-haired or blond, with faces that freckled or burned in the sun instead of browning." ~ A Storm of Swords, p. 520

Given GRRM's response to the casting, I'm getting the feeling that his version of "dark, olive skin" is someone who looks like me.

(I'm a light skinned yellowish Southeast Asian in case you're wondering.)

Raggedy Man

"We all change. When you think about it, we're all different people all through our lives. And that's okay. That's good. You got to keep moving, so long as you remember all the people that you used to be. I will not forget one line of this. Not one day. I swear. I will always remember when the Doctor was me." ~The 11th Doctor

I'm going to miss you fish custard. :-(

A Harry Potter play?

The actor in me/theater nerd is very intrigued indeed.....

J.K. Rowling writing 'Harry Potter' prequel stage play

"To JK Rowling, from Cho Chang"

I am going to spread this video like fiendfyre. Everything said in this poem sums up all the feelings I've had towards Cho Chang for the past decade that I couldn't/was too lazy to put into words. I almost got teary eyed at the end.

COS closing

I sort of gave up the Chamber of Secrets forums, only to check in every few months to see how much the Snape forums will never change. If it's gone for good after this summer, I'm definitely going to feel like something is missing. I've moved on to many things in the last few years, and the rest of the fandom has been doing the same.

Re-post from tumblr cause damn this is too true.

A Quick Guide to Nice Guy(TM) Responses (aka You Can't Win):
  • Act friendly: "She lead me on! Bitch!"
  • Don't act friendly: "She didn't give me a chance! Bitch!"
  • Let them down nicely: "Well she said 'not right now', so I'll keep trying 'til she changes her mind."
  • Flat-out say no: "What?! But I'm so nice! What a bitch! I'll keep trying 'til she changes her mind because she OWES me now."
  • Date someone else: "Ugh, women only date jerks!"
  • Don't date someone else: "Hello?! You clearly are single and so am I, why aren't we naked yet?"
  • Marry someone else, have baby, die tragically fighting Voldemort:"Now I will torture her emotionally and physically abused son because I loved her so much and she married that jackass Potter instead!"

Best spam comment I've ever? XD

Most of the spambot comments I've received are usually a bunch of scrambled sentences formed in a paragraph that doesn't make sense. I've never had one that actually tried to put me down in anyway and do it coherently. This was in reply to my one of my old posts back from my rantings about misogyny against Lily Potter days. I've actually gotten a couple comments out of the blue since then, the last one just a few weeks ago. I guess my over 2 year posts are still reaching some people. So it doesn't surprise me that people may still think I suck. I accidently deleted the comment when trying to mark it as spam. It's still saved in my email and I've copy and pasted here:

"The following time I read a weblog, I hope that it doesnt disappoint me as much as this one. I mean, I know it was my choice to read, however I actually thought youd have one thing fascinating to say. All I hear is a bunch of whining about one thing that you could possibly repair when you werent too busy in search of attention. 
Also read about the new threat to the peaceful existence. Peace or world war 3. http://worldwar3orpeace.blogspot.co m/"

Either this is another hater that's actually trying to send me a virus, or this is the best spam comment ever. 
I don't think I've been this devastated over fictional characters since Sirius Black died. And that was REALLY bad. Hell, this might be even worse.

Seriously, Steven Moffat. How am I supposed to rewatch seasons 5 and 6 without wanting to burst into tears? Really, how?


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